Wearing Many Hats.....

Hi All.
A great techie I am not, so I hope this connects with some of you fine ladies. I do not want to offend anyone with the descriptors I use, but it's very challenging to list my mother-roles in an understandable yet inoffensive manner, but here I go. I am the first mother of a child I surrendered for adoption, the first mother of a son I raised, the adoptive mother of a son and a daughter and the former foster mother of about a dozen infants/toddlers in pre-adoption/foster care situations. Is that decipherable? I hope so. I surrendered my daughter to an aunt and uncle, not being allowed to keep her and unable to face the prospect of giving her away to strangers. I am grateful I had that option but it has been a very painful journey.....and continues to be. It's amazing to me the fear and insecutity and need for control and power that has driven my aunt and uncle even though they knew me and had no cause to be that way. It has also been painful watching my adopted children grapple with the intricacies of adoption. As a mother, I want to take away their pain but I cannot. I can only support them, affirm them in their grief and simply love them for who they are. I look forward to sharing more and to getting to know your stories and hear your perspectives. Adoption is rough on everyone but sometimes the only solution. I wish that it were not so but that is not the world we live in.